Well, I'm slightly creeped out today, and I'll tell you why. Now that we have two kids, Robbie and I decided it would be responsible of us to write a will, so we did that last month. I did have to periodically remind myself that making contingency plans in case I died wasn't the same as planning to be dead at some point in the near future, but those reminders worked pretty well, so the process wasn't too bad at all. Now that that's done, I figured it would also be kind of me to put together our relevant information for Adam, whom we chose as our executor because AJ is still in his carefree youth and Brett lost his wallet twice in one day when he was seven, which, despite him having essentially run several third-world countries since then, in Robbie's eyes disqualifies him from all future positions of responsibility.
So, that's all well and good, and it's probably a good idea to accumulate this information anyhow, but I'm getting a folder for all the information and it occurred to me that although probably all the information in it would get updated at some point, since it's just getting put in a drawer anyhow at no point in the future am I likely to decide that my relevant-information folder is too worn or dirty or should be a different color. And then, the natural corollary is that someone else will, at some point, be opening up this particular relevant-information folder. And that's vaguely unsettling.
Now, I should point out here that although I don't know what Robbie's plans are in this area, I personally expect to live until I'm 90, because I was brought up to believe that's what decent people do. And by then I'm sure I'll have yanked Adam from his executor post, especially if he starts losing his wallet in later life, so it'll be Henry or Peter, and at that point they'll both qualify for AARP, so there's nothing inherently depressing here. And, weirdly, it is additionally comforting that I don't know if it'll be Henry or Peter. But nonetheless--vaguely unsettling. Maybe I should decoupage it or something.
So, that's all well and good, and it's probably a good idea to accumulate this information anyhow, but I'm getting a folder for all the information and it occurred to me that although probably all the information in it would get updated at some point, since it's just getting put in a drawer anyhow at no point in the future am I likely to decide that my relevant-information folder is too worn or dirty or should be a different color. And then, the natural corollary is that someone else will, at some point, be opening up this particular relevant-information folder. And that's vaguely unsettling.
Now, I should point out here that although I don't know what Robbie's plans are in this area, I personally expect to live until I'm 90, because I was brought up to believe that's what decent people do. And by then I'm sure I'll have yanked Adam from his executor post, especially if he starts losing his wallet in later life, so it'll be Henry or Peter, and at that point they'll both qualify for AARP, so there's nothing inherently depressing here. And, weirdly, it is additionally comforting that I don't know if it'll be Henry or Peter. But nonetheless--vaguely unsettling. Maybe I should decoupage it or something.
posted by JS at 11:28 AM
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You know, I'm selfishly happy to read that you and Robbie just did your wills a few months ago. Because we haven't done ours, yet. Did you use some sort of program, and if so, what one? If you don't mind sharing, that is.
Alas, my side of the family is not very good at long living, with the exception of my senile and crotchety grandfather whom everyone wishes would die already and stop spending his money on round the clock caregivers, and half of Matt's doesn't seem to be long lasting, either, so we should probably get on this.
With this exact thing in mind we signed up for the "legal services" benefit through my job. For a small on-time fee we get a year of free basic legal services. So now our feet are to the fire - this is our year to get the will done. And also any petty crimes we've had in mind.
-Debbie
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